Do you ever find yourself lying or denying something to cover up what you’ve done? Have you made a habit of it? Let me tell you, I am surrounded by people like that. People who deflect responsibility for the most minor things that they do everyday. If you’re going to do it, stand behind it and be proud! Otherwise you know it’s wrong and therefore shouldn’t be doing it. It’s that easy!
Now I’m not saying that I’m not guilty of this from time to time. We make a mistake, we’re embarrassed, we pretend like it never happened. But if you’re finding yourself constantly caught up in a web of denials and trickery, just to keep the people you’re offending off your back, then you’ve got a problem: you’re not living for yourself! All that must be stressing you the hell out, and that’s not okay. You deserve much better for yourself, and it’s a lot more simple than you might think!
I have an eighteen year old brother who is a constant reminder of what I was like in high school. Besides the fact that he’s an awesome individual, who’s insanely popular and social and funny, he has this tendency to duck responsibility. I mean, I understand a child’s fear of paying taxes and stuff like that, but I mean he can’t take responsibility for dirty dishes, or skipping school, or doing anything he thinks might get him into trouble. Now, think about it this way. If you were gonna break the rules or be a badass (at least high school wise), would you rather be a John Bender type a la The Breakfast Club, or the kid who knocks over the juice box and then shrugs and points his finger at someone else? The ‘too cool for school’ stereotype includes something besides rule breaking and going against the system: being totally proud and taking full responsibility for everything you do.
When you start taking responsibility for every little thing you do, you’ll realize how much of an impact all those things have on your life. You’ll see your mistakes in all their goofy glory, and acknowledging those is the greatest way to improve yourself.
If you’re feeling disconnected from others or like it’s you against the world, not accepting your role in other peoples lives can contribute to that. Wether you like it or not, part of being a decent human being is having respect for others, and that means their feelings AND their belongings. Now I definitely don’t mean be a mindless doormat, if someone is fucking with you, you don’t have to take any shit. But don’t fool yourself into thinking that because your roommate constantly nags you about leaving your dirty dishes in the sink, that you don’t have to listen to it. That’s a mess you made. It’s terribly sad if you can’t take responsibility for it, and the stress you accumulate from others complaining about you – that’s on you.
Just some food for thought.>